Our biggest communication problem is that we do not listen to understand.
We listen to reply.

It’s really difficult to spend so much time alone. To see everyone else you know having deep connections with others and wanting something similar so badly for yourself.

You know that life has little meaning without relationships, but you struggle to keep them alive when you have so much else you’re trying to accomplish.

You’ve gotten really used to spending time by yourself. You’re usually so preoccupied accomplishing your goals that you don’t even notice. You’ve got a one-track mind and it’s so easy for you to dive into your to-do list and not come up for air until hours have passed. Most of the time this doesn’t leave room for you to spend time with others.

It never really bothered you until recently. But, lately, you’ve been looking up from your day planner a bit more and realizing that everyone around you seems to share their life with someone. Whether it’s a best friend or a significant other, they seem fulfilled by the connections they have with other people.

Your loneliness is starting to eat at you. You’ve tried bonding with others before, but after what felt like the zillionth time choosing the wrong man and the wrong friends, you kind of just gave up.

So, now it seems like your life is either busy and distracted, or boring and lonely

A lot of the time you feel unheard and misunderstood. You’re frustrated by the fact that no one really gets you, so you’ve alienated the few people who have tried to reach out and get to know you. Now it seems like you’ve just buried yourself so deep in busyness that you have no idea how to climb out and connect with those around you.

You truly want more out of your life. But you have no idea how to meet people who will understand your ambition. Plus, you’re not sure you can trust yourself to pick the right people to spend time with in the first place. You never imagined you’d be choosing between the path you’d planned for yourself and spending life utterly alone.

When You Seek Relationship Therapy with The Virtual Therapy Couch

· You will get to the bottom of why you continue to make poor relationship choices
· You will be able to make deep connections with others, so you no longer feel so isolated
· You will gain understanding of the habitual patterns in your life and how you relate to others
· You will build the communication skills you need to effectively connect with friends and family
· You will feel confident that your reactions with others are genuine and fulfilling

The Relationship Counseling Process:

Relationship Counseling is intended to help you get to the root cause of your interpersonal struggles. Together, you and your therapist will take an intentional approach to your treatment and work to clarify what is happening on an internal level to cause your relationship tension. You will work to understand the ways the past habits are impacting your present relationships and how to break out of unhelpful patterns.

You and your therapist will meet together weekly for 50-minute sessions. Sessions are held online using Simple Practice software. Typically, counseling continues for several weeks or months, but the duration of your time in therapy will depend on the complexity of your concerns. We recommend at least 8 sessions.

Here’s what to expect:

WEEK ONE: Intake
During this initial session, you and your therapist will meet to define the counseling relationship and discuss the details of informed consent. Your therapist will gather information about your biological, psychological, and social history and how this is impacting your current situation. You will also discuss the benefits and limitations to online therapy.

WEEK TWO and Beyond: Relationship Counseling
Together, in each subsequent session, you and your therapist will use evidenced-based psychotherapy models to help you experience positive connections within your community. This typically includes the use of Solution-Focused therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, and Mindfulness.

Each session is designed to maximize the therapeutic relationship and ensure the most healing possible. Together, you and your therapist will connect in an online therapeutic space with the goal of helping you become the best version of yourself.

TERMINATION: 1-2 Final Sessions
In your final sessions, you will review your goals to ensure you are satisfied with your counseling experience and that the work you and your therapist have done together has met your expectations. You will also outline a plan going forward so that you are able to retain what you have worked on together and implement all you have learned outside of session.

More About The Virtual Therapy Couch

As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists with years of experience working in New York City, we have seen how a busy, competitive life contributes to strained relationships. At The Virtual Therapy Couch, our job is to help you become curious about why things are the way they are in your life so you can recognize triggers and shift from reacting situations to understanding and responding to them.

We wholeheartedly believe that having compassion for yourself and your past experiences leads you integrate all aspects of yourself into one thriving whole. You just need the guidance and expertise of a professional to help you experience greater harmony in your relationships with others.

We make it our mission to help busy women find the time and space to care for themselves. The Virtual Therapy Couch dedicated to empowering women, providing hope and insight, so they can lead their best lives. It is our passion to support women in all stages of life make the changes they need to feel confident and secure.

Who Benefits Most from Relationship Counseling
Relationship Therapy is best for those who are struggling in their personal relationships and often feel alone and unheard. Relationship Counseling helps you invest in your relationship with yourself so you can start to set the tone of every other interaction in your life.

You will benefit from Relationship Therapy sessions if:
· You keep making the same mistakes in your relationships
· You have difficulty connecting to others and spend a lot of time alone
· You are lacking positive connections with peers and loved ones in your life
· You question your worth and what you have to offer others in your relationships
· You are always at odds with the important people in your life

There are certain situations where you might not be ready for Relationshihp Counseling sessions with The Virtual Therapy Couch. These situations include, but are not limited to:
· severe mental illness or a need for intensive therapy
· active crisis or actively suicidal or homicidal
· severe eating disorders, severe substance use/abuse or severe self-injurious behavior
· the requirement of legal paperwork or external documentation of services
· being mandated to attend counseling/treatment
· active domestic violence situations or in immediate danger
If you are currently experiencing any of these issues, we can provide you with appropriate referrals for your level of care.
What Does Relationship Therapy Cost?
Relationship Counseling is a fee for service program and The Virtual Therapy Couch accepts all major forms of payment.

Each session costs $200 and we do not currently accept insurance. The Virtual Therapy Couch is happy to provide you with a superbill receipt to submit to your insurance company for Out of Network reimbursement.
When and Where Can I Schedule an Relationship Counseling Session?
The Virtual Therapy Couch offers online counseling sessions for those living in New York City and all residents of New York State. In-person sessions are available at our physical location in Skaneateles, Pathways Marriage and Family Therapy.

Counseling Services are offered Monday through Friday with appointment availability from 8AM – 5PM with additional appointments available upon request.
Your Next Steps
You absolutely can come to know yourself on a core level and use this knowledge to build better relationships with others. You will be able to find commonalities and connection points beyond frivolous things to build deep bonds with the people you care about. You will also learn to choose the right people to bring into your life and trust yourself as you make these choices.

Feeling seen, loved, and understood may seem a long way off right now, but that doesn’t mean you can’t surround yourself with honest and caring relationships. You just need to learn to have compassion for yourself while you’re figuring it all out.

You will become a better listener, sharer, and communicator. And you’ll also shift your perspective away from goal achieving toward cultivating relationships with others in your life. Ultimately, you’ll end up having a better relationship with yourself, with loved ones, and with the world. The Virtual Therapy Couch can help.


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