Therapy can make the most important relationships better than ever.
You don’t even want to think about how long it’s been since you and your partner were intimate. With everything that’s bouncing around in both of your heads, prioritizing togetherness falls straight to the bottom of your mental to-do list.
You know you’re ‘all in’. You are fully committed and want this to work. It’s just that, when the same old problems and arguments come up you start to wonder, “Why am I doing this?”
Maybe you’re in crisis, you’ve been unfaithful or you discovered that your partner was, how do you pick up the pieces? How can you possibly move on?
You both hate the fact that it’s so hard to enjoy each other physically, and the pent-up frustrations are starting to come out in cold shoulders and arguments. An active, exciting sex life is important to the two of you. You just don’t know how to close the distance and connect.
You and your partner weren’t always this disconnected. You used to bond over your busyness, joking that you were a power couple who was going to take over the world. You’d work long hours and still find time for nice dinners and Netflix binges. You felt like you had it all, the high-powered careers and the loving relationship and it was no effort at all to connect emotionally and physically.
But as you continued on at your fast pace, you and your partner started to feel pulled in too many directions. Your jobs became more intense and responsibilities more frequent and suddenly your hustle turned into all out stress. You started withdrawing from each other, almost as if you were seeking shelter within yourselves to regroup. Unfortunately, though, this protective act of pulling away only created a huge rift of distance.
So here you both are, anxious and awkward around the person you love and afraid to ask to have your needs met.
Most days you tiptoe around one another. You both have so much going on that it’s hard to prioritize time together – and you certainly don’t want to add to each other’s already full plates. But avoiding your issues isn’t working. And since you don’t feel comfortable asking for what you need, your requests come out as criticisms. You’re struggling to communicate and wonder how you’ll ever reconnect if every conversation turns into a fight.
Neither of you want to end up in a sexless relationship. You both know that every couple goes through rough patches, but you never thought you’d lose a grasp on your physical connection.
What you didn’t expect was how you could go weeks without a decent conversation and have so many pent-up emotions that every time you try to talk it comes out as an argument. You never predicted the two of you would struggle to be intimate. And you certainly didn’t expect to be contemplating splitting up.
When You Seek Couples Counseling with The Virtual Therapy Couch
· You and your partner will rekindle your connection and your sex life
· You and your partner will improve communication, so you can discuss important matters without fighting
· You and your partner will prioritize time together to work on your relationship and reconnect
· You and your partner will feel better about your relationship and where it is headed
The Couples Counseling Process
Couples Counseling is intended to help you and your partner understand how your past experiences and habits are affecting your relationship today. Together, you, your partner, and your therapist will dive deep into the patterns of your relationship so that the two of you can start to craft a new reality.
You, your partner and your therapist will meet together weekly for 50-minute sessions. Sessions are held online using SimplePractice software, If you choose to use your phone you will need the App Telehealth by SimplePractice to get started. Typically, counseling continues for several weeks or months, but the duration of your time in therapy will depend on the complexity of your concerns. We recommend at least 8 sessions.
Here’s what to expect:
WEEK ONE: Intake
During this initial session, you, your partner, and your therapist will meet to define the counseling relationship and discuss the details of informed consent. Your therapist will gather information about both of your biological, psychological, and social histories and how this is impacting your current situation. You will also discuss the benefits and limitations to online therapy.
WEEK TWO and Beyond: Couples Counseling
Together, in each subsequent session, your therapist will use evidenced-based psychotherapy models to help you and your partner experience positive connections within your community. This typically includes the use of Solution-Focused therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, and Mindfulness.
Each session is designed to maximize the therapeutic relationship and ensure the most healing possible. Together, you, your partner, and your therapist will connect in an online therapeutic space with the goal of helping you become the best version of yourself.
TERMINATION: 1-2 Final Sessions
In your final sessions, you and your partner will review your goals to ensure both of you are satisfied with your counseling experience and that the work you have done together has met your expectations. You and your partner will also outline a plan going forward so that you are able to retain what you have worked on together and implement all you have learned outside of session.
More About The Virtual Therapy Couch
As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists working in New York, we have seen how a busy, competitive life impacts romantic relationships. At The Virtual Therapy Couch, our job is to help you and your partner become curious about why things are the way they are in your relationship so you can recognize triggers and shift from reacting situations to understanding and responding to them.
We wholeheartedly believe that having compassion for yourself and your partner goes a long way in helping you regain intimacy and satisfaction. You just need the guidance and expertise of a professional to help you reconnect.
We make it our mission to help busy couples find the time and space to invest in their relationships. The Virtual Therapy Couch is dedicated to empowering couples, providing them with hope and insight, so they can lead their best lives. It is our passion to inspire couples to reach their fullest potential. (LINK TO ABOUT PAGE)
Who Benefits Most from Couples Therapy
Couples Therapy is best for those who realize their current situation is unhealthy for themselves and those they love. Couples Counseling helps you improve your communication and reduce conflict so that you and your partner will feel closer and more connected.
You will benefit from Couples Therapy sessions if:
· You and your partner have trouble communicating without arguing or fighting
· You and your partner have experienced infidelity within your relationship
· You and your partner struggle to maintain a happy, healthy sex life
· You and your partner feel stressed by the demands of your hectic schedules
· You are your partner have recently had a change in lifestyle or been through a transition
There are certain situations where you might not be ready for Couples Counseling sessions with The Virtual Therapy Couch. These situations include, but are not limited to:
· severe mental illness or a need for intensive therapy
· being mandated to attend counseling/treatment
· active domestic violence situations or in immediate danger
If you are currently experiencing any of these issues, we can provide you with appropriate referrals for your level of care.
What Does Couples Therapy Cost?
Couples Counseling is a fee for service program and The Virtual Therapy Couch accepts all major forms of payment.
We do not currently accept insurance. The Virtual Therapy Couch is happy to provide you with a superbill receipt to submit to your insurance company for Out of Network reimbursement.
When and Where Can I Schedule a Couples Counseling Session?
The Virtual Therapy Couch offers online counseling sessions for those living in New York City and all residents of New York State and Florida. In-person sessions are available at our physical location in Skaneateles, Pathways Marriage and Family Therapy.
Counseling Services are offered Monday through Friday with appointment availability from 8AM – 4PM with additional appointments available upon request.
Your Next Steps
It is possible for you and your partner to feel comfortable enough to state your desires. You will be able to talk about touchy subjects and have the difficult conversations without automatically breaking out in a fight. You will both feel confident that you can manage all of the obligations in your life and still put your relationship satisfaction first.
It’s shocking to admit that something that comes so naturally to your relationship has been missing for such a long time. But that’s not a sign that your attraction is gone forever. You just need help gaining understanding from a caring professional.
You will be able to increase your intimacy and improve your sex life. You’ll also be able to renew your sense of trust and commitment. In the end, you’ll feel much more confident about the state of your relationship and the direction it’s headed. The Virtual Therapy Couch can help.
Call to schedule your Couples Counseling session today.
You are tired of the fights, your trust has been broken and you are just not feeling heard. You’re upset by the lack of trust, lack of respect, and lack of closeness, you’re only human to feel hopeless and discouraged. But, there is hope… Couples Therapy helps to rebuild happy and healthy relationships. Learn the skills and tools to dissolve conflict, improve communication and increase intimacy.
• Communication Training
Every relationship experiences communication breakdowns. We will develop ways to better communicate. Learn to share to share your feelings, thoughts and troubles in way that your partner can hear them.
Healing From Infidelity
The discovery of infidelity can be devastating to both individuals. Most couples have little hope for recovery, but with help your relationship can improve and be better than ever.
• Intimacy & Sex Therapy
Maybe you are experiencing low desire, performance issues or you just want to add some spark to your relationship. What ever your concern is, we are hear to help.